I got an email from someone the other day telling me about a friend of his. It seems that his friend, a best selling author, had only ever made $85,000 a year. He decided that he was going to “up-level his business” because he felt that he was playing small. So he hired a team of people, beefed up his marketing and is now grossing $300,000 working 70 hours a week instead of the 40 before. And, only keeps $85,000. He is making same as before he decided to level up without all of the hassle.
This is a great example of a money ceiling. A money ceiling is an unconscious ceiling you have put on yourself. Until you heal it and raise it, you never make more than your ceiling. If you do, something will “happen,” such as an unexpected expense and you will be right back to where you started.
A money ceiling is a great example of how our wealth identity will affect how much we make and what we allow into our lives. Our identity is “who we think we are.”
How many of us have heard those words, “Who do you think you are?” Those words that are designed to “keep you in your place.” And, keep us In our place, it does. It is our comfort zone. It is in a sense, our path of least resistance. We keep ourselves “in our place.” In that place is the voices of our parents, teachers, friends, neighbors, culture, advertisements. That doesn’t include our own voices.
Our wealth identity determines where we live, who we feel comfortable with, how we feel about ourselves, whether we feel not good enough when with people more affluent than us, or better than passing by a homeless person. It determines how we spend, save and many other ways we live our lives. And, how much money we will make.
As my client, Marie, began taking control of her finances and her life, the voice of her mother, “we’re not like them, they have money,” consistently spoke to her. As she expanded her services and raised her fees, that voice spoke to her, telling her she was bad, that she wouldn’t fit it and no one would like her. As she realized it was a voice that had been implanted in her, she was able to feel comfortable with what she had and what she wanted to create in her life. Which was more ease and comfort.She forgave herself for agreeing to take on her mother’s paradigm, and could now see, both herself and her mother, with more compassion. As a result, her income started to increase and she could begin to “give” herself a fuller life.
You are enough, and you deserve to have enough and more than enough to share and to spare. No one has more or less value than you. You are loved. One of my favorite quotes is from the movie Auntie Mame, “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death.”
Give thanks for what you now have and be willing to partake in the amazing banquet of life.
Blessings